Alex de Carvalho


In memoriam, Kashmir, 1998–2009

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You brought joy to those you touched. You had an irre­sistible charm borne of inno­cent mis­chief. You saw your­self as more human than cat, and made your pres­ence felt despite not speak­ing much. You par­tic­i­pated in every­thing and your curios­ity knew no bounds. You were a peace­maker and a soother. You ruled the house and you wel­comed all into your sphere. You feared naught. You lived to eat and you ate every­thing — we under­stood this as a show of affec­tion, of belong­ing, of par­tic­i­pat­ing in the daily fam­ily rit­u­als. You lived a full life, and you gave more than you took.

So long, my stead­fast com­pan­ion. Thank you for the mem­o­ries; you graced our lives. You are my friend and I miss you much. May you rest in peace.

The Best Thing in the World

What’s the best thing in the world?
June-rose, by May-dew impearled;
Sweet south-wind, that means no rain;
Truth, not cruel to a friend;
Plea­sure, not in haste to end;
Beauty, not self-decked and curled
Till its pride is over-plain;
Love, when, so, you’re loved again.
What’s the best thing in the world?
–Some­thing out of it, I think.

Eliz­a­beth Bar­rett Browning

Do not go gen­tle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Dylan Thomas

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  • http://www.hiddencity.net mkhall

    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I know how dif­fi­cult the loss of a loved one is. My thoughts are with you.

  • http://gopalo.com Steve Roit­stein

    A beau­ti­ful trib­ute to a dear friend. I share in your loss.

  • http://www.jeffreysass.com Jeff Sass

    Alex, so sorry. I have lost more beloved pets than I care to remem­ber and it is always bit­ter­sweet… sad­ness for the loss, and joy for the mem­o­ries of such pure, unim­paired devo­tion that it seems only a pet can bring. Cats are mys­ti­cal, mag­i­cal crea­tures, and I hope another enters your life soon.

  • http://melissamaples.com/ Melissa Maples

    I’m really sorry to hear about this. It’s incred­i­bly dif­fi­cult to let a fam­ily mem­ber go, even if it was Kashmir’s time. That’s a very sweet photo, as well — what a fan­tas­tic companion.

  • Ico

    Tapi­oli,

    Sei bem o que sig­nifica perder um bich­inho tao querido, infe­liz­mente eles vem e vao tao cedo de nos­sas vidas. Tenho certeza que voce tera sem­pre boas recor­da­coes dele. Grande abraco e Deus o tenha.
    Bei­jos do primo.

  • http://alexdc.org Alex de Carvalho

    Thank you so much for your com­fort­ing thoughts. I am blessed to have shared Kashmir’s time and his mem­ory lives for­ever now.

  • Cin­tia (amiga da sua mae)

    Sinto muito da sua saudade e tris­teza que acom­panha a perda de um grande com­pan­heiro.
    I know well the empti­ness that our lit­tle fur friends leave us. May you find com­fort in know­ing Kash­mir loved you and your fam­ily more than any­thing. Hugs, Cintia.

  • Mol­lie Page

    Alex —

    So sorry to hear about your loss. I could see the deep devo­tion and love you had for Kash­mir when we spoke on Mon­day. I buried my red cat Thomas under a bird bath and bird feeder 11 yrs ago in my back yard — and it brings solace to know his spirit still lives in my heart every time I watch the birds visit his grave.

    Mol­lie

  • http://twitter.com/cmwooll Cyn­dee Woolley

    Alex,

    I’m sorry to hear that Kash­mir didn’t make it. He was obvi­ously a cher­ished part of your fam­ily and the loss is great.

    My thoughts are with you.

    ~ Cyn­dee

  • http://www.twitter.com/macaia Francesco

    Sinto muito, cara. Voce escreveu palavras muito boni­tas. Um grande abraco.

  • http://www.aspirepr.biz Suzanne Dameron

    Alex — It’s always a big hole los­ing a pet. What a nice trib­ute. Suzanne
    Look­ing for­ward to your talk Thurs­day in Sarasota.

  • Cesar

    Met Kash­mir in Paris, actu­ally this pic­ture was taken there. I know how much she ment for Alex. Sorry to hear about your loss dude. Take care.

  • http://blog.delaranja.com Andre Ribeir­inho

    Sorry about your loss Alex. I know what my 3 cats mean to me and I can imag­ine the kind of pain you’re going through. He’s prob­a­bly in a bet­ter place now and only that can give us com­fort. Be well my friend.

  • http://alexdc.org Alex de Carvalho

    Thank you so much for your com­ments, it’s heart­warm­ing to receive your good­will and it helps me a lot. Kash­mir will now live on in my mem­ory, as will the many lessons he taught me.

  • Lari

    Sei como dói perder um bich­inho que nos acom­pan­hou por anos sem pedir nunca nada em troca e que entrega sem recla­mar a sua vida a nós.
    Não há nada a fazer a não ser agrade­cer por toda com­pan­hia que ele te fez por anos. Você tem sorte por isso. Força!

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  • Opal

    *hugs*

  • http://www.liveinakron.com David M Childress

    Heck, I am fol­low­ing you just for the beau­ti­ful eulogy. Some peo­ple think that men have no heart for cats, Ha! We lost our Champ after a great 17 years and it was very dif­fi­cult. I went to the vet to put him down after too much suf­fer­ing and I cried. I told the nurse I was sorry and that it must seem strange to see a man cry over a cat. No, she said, it hap­pens all the time. His ashes are on our man­tle ded­i­cated to all the love he gave us.

  • http://www.hiddencity.net/ mkhall

    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I know how dif­fi­cult the loss of a loved one is. My thoughts are with you.

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